Saturday, February 28, 2009

Druged up weekend

So getting the teeth pulled today was not that bad. It is kind of weird, I remember the IV going in and them putting stuff in my mouth, and they said they were done. It felt like 5 mins had passed, but in actuality it was about 30. weird.

The pain is not that bad so far, I have been icing it and taking the meds. I slept most of the day so that is why I am up blogging at 1 in the morning.

My hubbs has been wonderful taking care of me, you know it is friday, so this is perfect! My hubsband rocks becuase of how sweet he is when I am sick. I can be a real baby with not wanting to do a lot and just lay in bed. He made me dinner and brings me my meds on a little tray. I love him so much. I think he is going to make an awesome dad.

It is so fun watching Hubbs interact with kids. He loves them! We have some good friends with three girls and they are always asking when Hubbs is coming over to play. When ever we see them on campus, they always run to him for high fives I love it. There are several families that we have baby sat for, all older kids. I dont think I could do the baby thing for someone else. I dont want to do that until it is mine. Maybe that is selfish, but I havent held a baby baby since before we found out about all the infertility. I think I would burst if somone asked me to hold their infant. I kind of want to keep it that way until we are matched and I get to hold my child. I know I am setting myself up for a very emotional moment, but that is ok.

Wow, well that is what you get on drugs at 1 in the morning, a lot of random rambling!

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Stupid tooth

Grr.. I know that my wisdom teeth are a problem. I have never taken them out because they never hurt, until now. My mouth feels like it is going to explode with pain! I hate that a tooth can cause this much pain. I have a head ache, stomach ache, and my jaw is throbbing.

I am off to the dentist tomorrow to see what they say. I hate the doctor!

Oh bright side, I think I will atleast get some good pain meds as a take home prize!

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Adoption Class # 3: Infertility and Adoption

I wish I could put to words the feeling of turning in our homestudy paper work last night. It was like I took this huge piece of stress and just handed it over. And on top of that to be able to pay the bill IN FULL, it was a great moment. I dont think the gal who took it from us understood the gravity of the moment, she said thanks and tossed it on a desk like it was just a stack of papers. Didnt she know how much time and energy we put into those answers! Oh well, we know and we felt it.

The class was pretty good, not our favorite but we are getting to know people more each time. We talked about dealing with grief over infertility. I was ready to go in there and be really emotional and feel that heavy rock that builds in my stomach at times like this. But it didnt happen. When I started to share in my little group, I talked about the past, how I felt. I was ok. I realized that i had dealt with these emotions and worked through the grieving stages and I am now in a good place. Praise God! Hubbs said the same thing, that He felt like this class would have been helpful a few months ago, but that He is doing really well with it right now. We felt strong, it was awesome.

The second half of the night they always have a panel of people come in and share their experiences. This was amazing! Three couples and their adopted babies (I know, babies on the night that we all talked about how we cant get pregnant, really, who thought that was a good idea!) They each told their story, of how when they met the birthmother, what that meeting was like, how long they waited, what the birth was like, the relationship they have now with the birthmoms and a lot of other stuff. I listened to everything they said, but I think more than that I just stared at three beautiful families that look perfectly normal. That will be me. I will be sitting with my Hubbs and a sweet little baby in my arms cooing every time I talk.
It really was magical.

Sunday, February 22, 2009

Yard Sale Success!

Yesterday was one of the most tiring days of my life. Especially since Friday had that title until yesterday. Yesterday we had a yard sale!

Over the past month we have been collecting donations from our community to sell. Everyone was really excited about it and willing to pitch in. All day friday was pricing and sorting and long theoretical conversations about the worth of a particular item. Signs went up about midnight and we fell into bed.

The sale started bright and early at 7am. We had a ton of stuff, big pieces of furniture, kid bikes, pottery barn pillows, electronics, toys, books, all the random nick nacks and more clothes than I think I have owned in my whole life. We started off slow but had a great late rush between 10 and 1 it was kind of wierd yardsale behavior but whatever they bought stuff. We also hung signs that said all proceeds to to the Baby Hoffman Adoption Fund. I think it made a difference, people like giving to a good cause.

Going into this Hubbs and I were hoping to make around $400. We need $900 to pay the bill for the Homestudy. We figured this would help and then we would save the rest over the next couple of months. Hubbs loves numbers and statistics so by 10 he knew that we would meet our goal if in the last half we sold proportionally the same every hour as the first three hours. I have no idea what that really means, I just smile and say, Sure Love! Throughout the day he would come and collect my big bills, so I really had no idea what we were making. Everytime he would ask I would have atleast one or two twenties, it was like they kept multiplying in my bag!

As things started winding down we started calculating our profit. I could have cried when Adam told me our pure profit was $750! What I did do was scream YEAH! and a little happy dance. God is so faithful. We had two families that gave us donations yesterday as well, so the grand total $900. I wasnt kidding about the God being awesomly faithful! We made EXACTLY what we needed. This is such a gift, to not stress about the last little bit to pay that bill. I am on cloud nine right now.

We have a class at the adoption agency on Monday and I am so excited to walk in there and hand them our Completed homestudy paper work and a big fat check.

Praise God!

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Questions from the homestudy

I have been really surprised at the types of questions they ask on the home study. I expected it to be more theoretical about parenting, but it is way more practical. They want to know specifics! We kind of feel like we are writing out how we will parent for the next 18 years which just seems silly. Instead of asking how do you teach children healthy eating habits, or what are healthy eating habits, they ask, when is dinner time, are kids expected to eat everything, who decides portions, can kids make their own plates, what if they dont like the food and so on. I guess they are getting the same information, but Hubbs and I kind of stare at each other confused and confess that we have no idea who will decide the portions during dinner. So we talk about it for a minute and write something down.

I keep trying to remind myself that this is a tool for the social worker to get to know us, and make sure we are going to be healthy parents. I wont be repremanded if I dont pull the homestudy out in 5 years to make sure I am using the exact bedtime we said we would.

With that said, some of the questions have been kind of funny. Our favorite section has been on Potty Training. Here are the questions for your enjoyment.

Toilet Training

1. When would you being: With a boy? With a girl?
Remember we are adopting an infant, this really isnt on our minds yet

2. How would you accomplish it?
I have no idea!! we have never done this before, but I am sure I will read about it some day and have a great answer. I think we wrote something about talking about it with the child, setting a start time, and then asking them every 30 mins if they have to go everyday until they get it, and when they do we will throw a Potty Party with a toilet cake and they get underoos for presents. I would go to the potty for that.

3. When would you expect a child to be completely trained?
I hate setting expectations, they always make me feel like a failure in the end.

4. How do you handle accidents or bed-wetting? Soiling?
Hubbs' first response to all questions like this was "kick them in the head" He was kidding of course, it was funny at the time. If the case worker could somehow record our conversations as we filled this out we would be done!

5. How important are toilet habits to you?
What in the world are toilet habits?? this question made us laugh for about 10 minutes, we talked about, well I sing on the toilet, and hubbs reads, but our kids should not flush toys, or play in the toilet, I really am not sure what they are asking here, I think in the end we said something about wiping well and washing hands. They really should be a little more clear on this.

In the end I think we are doing a good job, but really I just want to write I dont know for almost every answer. It leaves you feeling a little inadequet and I am reading parenting books like a champ to try and figure this stuff out so we answer well. We are going to be the most prepared parents in the world!!

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Sorry for the Silence

I have been such a bad blogger lately! I am sorry that I have been silent, I have been reading others blogs I just didnt have much to write about myself. Work is also really busy right now. It is good because great things are happening in our ministry, but it is a lot of work! I do want to post soon about some of the home study questions. I think it would be interesting to see how yall would answer some of the questions. We worked on it for 3 hours last night.
We are going to be superparents!

Monday, February 2, 2009

Dragon Parade

We went to the dragon parade on Saturday in celebration of Chinese New Year. It was awesome, lots of contortionist, acrobats, martial artistist, dragons and amazing food. I love Chinese food!! We had pork dumplings and chow mien and some pastry thing filled with I don't know what but it was GOOD!

Anyways I just wanted to share some pictures from out little adventure.

It is good luck to put money in the dragon's mouth so they worked the crowd, made me want to put on a dragon head!

Holy Crap, she is balancing on her collar bone, holding on with her teeth and spining those rug things.

Hanging out on some spears

Jumping through hoops, backwards, frontwards, spinning.

Dancing dragons in the parade

He started out laying down and slowly stood up holding her like this, never even wobbled.

Then she curled up holding her feet like a ring and he tossed her up and put his arms through her like a game of ring toss, she fell all the way until she was resting here on his thighs. I dont think I have that much trust in anyone.

So that was out day, a fun little adventure date out with the Hubbs. I think we are going to practice some of those moves for the staff retreat talent show.