Thursday, August 14, 2008

I hate going to the Doctor!

I don't think Tuesday could have been worse.

Bad news #1: The endometriosis has created an environment that is non conducive to fertilization. We had not heard this yet, we thought we were just one tube down and that was all. Her opinion was that meds, and other procedures wouldnt work because you are still depending on your body to ovulate and allow the egg to be fertilized and I have a BAD enviroment. So we should go straight to IVF, which I am not comfortable with.

Bad news #2: The only fertility specialist they have is a mean cold women who is not good at what she does. That was directly from the docs mouth! So we could get a consult from her, but it probably wouldn't be accurate and she would like us to go to a fertility clinic.

Bad news #3: Our insurance wouldn't cover the Mean lady even if we wanted to go! We were kind of counting on doing as much as we could under insurance before going elsewhere so we could save up some money. This appointment was the end of the road for us with insurance.

So what do we do now? First we cry, then we figure out how we are going to pay for all of this. I think I found a clinic that I would like to go to, but even the consult is $315. I hate that money is a part of this. I never wanted to have to think about a child with a price tag attached.

So we are in the same place we were in before we went, no game plan.

I can get a game plan, but that will cost me $315.

I hate this.

11 comments:

Whitney said...

I'm so sorry! I know exactly how you feel about money being an issue. It's so stupid that some people have great insurance for infertility and others like us don't get anything!

Hope2morrow said...

I understand your frustration completely. It's all so hard, and the money situation doesn't make it any easier.

Yaya said...

I'm sorry :(
The money end of infertility sucks and just rubs in some more salt in our wound.
Because of my form of endo I'm not even a candidate for IVF since our chances of success are so low to not even make it worth it. Our only advice from the doc every time I go in to try to do something/anything is to 'just keep trying'....

Cathleen said...

I am so sorry. It's so difficult to get news that you just don't want to hear. And the money thing, yeah, that doesn't help either...

Elizabeth said...

I'm sorry about the money. It's not fair that money should even be a factor. Speaking of anniversaries, my husband and I found out that IVF was our only option on our 5th anniversary. Needless to say it put a damper on the day.

Cassandra said...

Here from IComLeavWe...

Would your insurance cover that other clinic at all?

If the specialist at your current clinic is mean, I would like to suggest that you leave right now. You have to really trust your RE, and if you have a bad feeling from the beginning then it will probably just get worse and worse. From my experience, as much as the money can be tough, it's a lot more palatable if you're on board with the treatment and the doc.

Best of luck to you!

seriously? said...

Here from ICLW. So sorry to hear that the news wasn't good. I agree that money being an issue is AWFUL, no one should have to put a price on a child.

alicia said...

oh no, I am so sorry! I hate hate hate how we have to pay to get pregnant. Ihope you figure things out and find a way to save up. boo IF!

here from ICLW

Andrea said...

Oh no! I'm so sorry about the endo. The costs of all this IF stuff are just astronomical! We are saving up for a potential donor egg cycle right now. We were supopsed to be saving for a house, but I guess that will have to wait.

Good luck to you. I hope you find a good doc that is covered by your insurance.

Here from ICLW.

In Due Time said...

Coming over from ICLW...

Having to pay out of pocket SUCKS. It's the only reason we haven't pursued anything else at the current time.

We are saving, too and hoping by next year to start treatments a year or so from now.

Rachie Pachie said...

I know exactly how you feel. We're dealing with endo. Think we can do IUI, then find out morphology is too low for IUI (which wouldn't have been covered anyhow, but cheaper).

But, I'm telling... God will provide it if He's leading you. Hubby & I don't make a great living, but we both work. We have a low mortgage & no car payments (we drive 10+ yr old vehicles with great MPG), no cable, & closely monitor/limit our food/gas budget. Therefore, we have been able to save almost $1000 each month! It's hard, but we will be able to do IVF without going into debt. Also, we rounded up stuff to sell on Craigslist & saved that. We use an ING online savings account that pays us about $20-25/month in interest (the bigger our savings is getting). We ask church members & friends for donations for yard sales & the response has been TREMENDOUS. I'm hoping for $500, but I think we may be able to earn $700-$800 at the yard sale. We have had small gifts of money that mean the most. It's like God is telling us "Even if it's just $50 or $500 or $5000, I'll take care of it."

Be faithful & pray for His guidance. Feel free to email me (rachelbjohn@hotmail.com)because even though I DO get down, it's pretty awesome to see His blessings. It will be hard, but it's definitely attainable.

And, yeah, I'm pretty nervous about dropping all that money on something that may or may not work. But, to see the way He's working to allow us these blessings... I feel a lot more confident that this is the plan He has for us.